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Bacon Cheeseburger Please

As a mother my responsibility to my kids is to love, clothe, feed and house them.  I do this constantly. Most of the the time they don’t even realize it or thank me.  I hear “Thanks for dinner mom”,  on nights  when I make Orange Chicken and Tater tots.  I didn’t get any rave reviews last week when I made Potato Soup.  I’m the “best mom ever” when I bring home ice cream, or let them go to a friends house.  But if I said, hey today were not going anywhere or doing anything fun I’m just gonna sit around and hug and love you guys all day.  I’m sure it would be dubbed the worst day ever.
I make sacrifices to feed my children a certain way, a few weeks ago, I bought sockeye salmon the stuff is not cheap but it’s so good for you.  The kids had testing in school so I was trying to load them up on Omega 3’s and EFA’s like it would immediately go to their brain and make them smarter.  They did not like it, I could have bought some processed chicken wings from Walmart and they would have been in heaven.  Again they were clueless to the purpose of dinner that night.  Honestly, I understand that they like chicken wings better than Salmon.  But it hurts when they turn their nose up to something that I worked hard to provide them for their own benefit.  I don’t expect them to start doing cartwheels at the sight of salmon but I want them to  at least understand that when I put something on the table that they don’t particularly like it’s for a purpose.
I try not to take it personal. I know my kids love me, but they’re kids.  Do we love God?  Sure, but we’re kids too.  Ok fine, grown ups with a jacked up human nature.
God is a good God, he actually wants to please us …he does not want to withhold good things from us and everything He does in our lives He has a purpose for it.  But sometimes it’s hard to see that.  We want a bacon cheeseburger and God gives us a salad with no croutons.
Instead of trying to find the benefit in what He’s doing, we complain.
Why can’t we just say I don’t like Salad but if that’s what you want me to have I’m going to  trust you and eat it until you choose to give me a bacon burger.  I’d like to take it a step further and say……you know what even if I never get that bacon burger, you’re still amazing and if you think this Salad is what I need, then salad is enough for me.
Psalms 84:11 For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory:no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. (KJV)
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Trick or Treat?

For most today is Halloween, at my house it’s hump day.  A regular boring Wednesday, no candy, no costumes, no compromises.

As a family we have chosen not to celebrate Halloween.  Fear, even in its most subtle forms will never be welcomed in our home.  And we’ve been through enough to know that the spirit realm is real and evil is not something to be played with.

My husband and I have 4 children 10 and under (My, that sounds better than the times I used to say 4 children 6 and under).  For the most part my children understand the choices we make and why we make them.  My oldest has always done a very good job of leading the younger children.  Tonight was a little different,  it started around 3:00 she asked, “are we doing anything fun tonight?”  I didn’t quite pick up on her question until I was making dinner and she came in and asked, “did you celebrate Halloween when you were a kid?” “was it fun?” Now, I was aware of what was on her heart.  I answered honestly, “Yes I celebrated Halloween as a child and yes it was fun.”

I went on to tell her the funny things I dressed up as, the time I went to a haunted house and almost peed my pants because I could smell the gas from the chainsaw.  I told her how my mom would drive us to the “rich” part of town so that we could rack up on the King-Sized Snickers.

I also told her about the time my girlfriend and I spent hours decorating sheets of paper with bible scriptures on them to pass out instead of candy.  Even my mom thought I was weird! I was 16 when I had my first conviction about Halloween. I don’t know what sparked it, but I was convinced that everyone who came to my door that night was going to leave believing in Jesus.  The next morning we woke up and saw, I’m sure what was 90% of our lovely scriptures thrown on the grass or lining the streets with rest of the candy wrapper litter.

My daughter is getting to the point where things have to be real to and for her.  I can’t say, “Halloween’s Bad” like I can to my 3 year old and that be the end of it.  She’s dealing with feeling left out, missing out and wanting to experience what the masses and even some of her close christian friends are experiencing.  I understand that and it was written all over her face.

After we talked she walked away and I could tell our talk had not satisfied her.  Sure enough a few minutes later I heard a soft whimpering in the stairway.

I found her and held her. I said I want you to have fun, it hurts my heart that you may not have the opportunity to do some of the things I did as a child, but I am responsible to God for you and this is how I believe God wants our family to live.  We are set apart from certain things.  I held her a little tighter but I could tell she was still not convinced, I let her go and told her to ask God to reveal His plan to her.  She wiped her eyes and agreed.

The night went on like normal, we ate dinner, laughed and talked like we always do.  At bed time my husband requires that the kids read a chapter of Proverbs and do sit ups and push ups.  I told you in yesterday’s post, Running the Race he was a fitness guru!

Right around 8:30 the kids all rushed downstairs eager to share with us what they learned.  My 6 year old summed it up like this, “if you go left you’re wrong, if you go right you’re wrong.  If you make a U- Turn you might be ok just as long as you stay straight!”  I wanted to laugh so hard because I was wondering how he came to that conclusion.  It was so cute but I dare not insult him with laughter because he was serious about this revelation.  Everyone had a turn to share, I finally asked, “Umm, where exactly were you guys reading from?”  My oldest daughter brought clarity to it all.  She read Proverbs 4:25-27 from her Student Bible:

25 Let your eyes look directly forward,
and your gaze be straight before you.
26 Ponder the path of your feet;
then all your ways will be sure.
27 Do not swerve to the right or to the left;
turn your foot away from evil.

She went on to explain that she has look straight ahead and think about the path that her is own path. Not the path of anyone else.  She understands why we don’t celebrate Halloween and she said now she believes she knows what God wants her to do.

Thank you Lord! You are a better parent than I could ever be.  My daughter was content, and I could not have given her that if I tried. What real a”KING-sized” treat. I was touched by her words and understanding and I pray you are too.

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